Everyone sees that look in her eyes

Sight

I search in every look

What you are looking at

Characters impose on our minds

When we have our own children involved in our business, we want to see them get and maintain their own client list. We want them to get their own home and raise their children even better than we raised them. As a parent, it is a joy to see them reach their fullest potential. As a country, we want to see its citizens do the same.

This is the tragedy of having a welfare state. We see the results of socialism around us. Deadbeat parents who are satisfied with living off the state and leaving the job of raising their children to the state and the grandparents. They lose out on the joys of helping  another human being reach their fullest potential. They raise children that are quick to blame others for their circumstances rather than becoming strong through overcoming obstacles.

It is similar to putting the child back in the stroller because he trips and falls. He may have had the potential to be an athlete but learns instead to depend on another for comfort rather than encouragement. In a welfare state, expecting others to pull up their boot straps and get going is considered mean spirited. Sure we should show empathy to others but with the expectation they will work through things themselves to overcome. There is nothing better as a boss to see an employee to take advice, work through adversity and become proficient at his job. The ones that sit back and complain or need to be coddled all the time are a disappointment.

The greatest gift we can give someone is to teach them to become hard working and optimistic. It is called self-actualization. The ability to see the God given talents in each one of us used to its fullest potential. To participate in this is a privilege.

Some things will never walk away 

Every parent enjoys seeing their child grow up. An infants sounds become conversations; they start walking and talking. It is endearing to see them learn to self-initiate rather than needing to be carried everywhere. Soon we tell them to quit acting like a helpless baby and walk themselves. Every stage of growth is celebrated and is marked by independence. As they grow up, it is our duty to equip them with as much independence and self- motivation as possible. It is a shame on a parent to have children who cannot function without them. At least that is the way it is supposed to be.

It seems our society is trying to make dependence a virtue. A real adult can’t wait to get out into the world make their way. Not because of a bad home-life but to make use of their energetic mind and body. We should make our own opportunities and it is a shame to put up with people who draw a shade over our human potential. There are various means that are used, but they all make us subjects to the whims of another.

The bar has been lowered at what constitutes being a victim. Slavery, murder or starvation used to be the criteria for it. To call oneself a victim in the abundance that is America is childish in the same way we don’t approve of a kid hanging on to his mommy because the world is scary. An adult is expected to go out, overcome obstacles and become something on his own. It isn’t a virtue to demand someone to take care of you; it is virtuous to work through hardships without complaining while bettering oneself in the process.

When the group we associate with tells us there is no opportunity, it is up to us to debunk the myth. It is a good idea to get away from peers that hold us back and listen to those who spark independence in us. It doesn’t require money or certain circumstances, it takes the courage that goes with independence to go out and make a change in our lives. The pay always comes later. We need to lay aside issues of race, economies and bad luck and put the God-given talent that is in each of us to work. To be courteous when inconvenienced, to embrace changes, to handle adversity with poise; are what it means to be mature.
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