When helping just hurts

Our minds like to sort things out and put them in an orderly fashion. It is a part of our survival skills; our ability to create and build. But along with this comes a tendency to categorize. It is a natural tendency but can cause us to miss quite a bit of detail when we depend solely on it. Science over the years has been advanced by those who break out of the status quo and look into matters in greater detail than those before them.

It is the desire of most people to have good character and endorse others who do. There are actions that are virtuous and actions that are abhorrent. No one should endorse abusive and abhorrent behavior. We won’t take time to list them. When a culture gets in trouble when it becomes normal to classify people. Numerous ways are used to do this, including race, sex, religion, politics, police, and the poor; the associations go on. But every person is an individual with the ability to make choices on their own.

So we use the words judgmental and characterizations to describe this sort of classifying people. Most people want to avoid being lumped in with a group. Right winger, the rich, liberal, the poor; the inclination is to characterize them as having bad motives, wanting to destroy or rip off others. The fact is that character itself is independent of these labels and we need to focus on good and bad behavior alone concerning a particular person. This should be done only after knowing all the details, and having some kind of influence in the matter.  Anything short of this is an injustice. Attributing behaviors to a particular group is also an injustice. We should have good judgment but not be judgmental; have good character while avoiding characterizations.

In every association there are good and bad people. There are also people who make mistakes or lack understanding. To classify them all as being bad does the good ones injustice. Classifying them all as good does the bad ones an injustice. In a socialist kind of mindset, people are put into classes like cattle. The tendency to judge is increased because the leaders want to be the saviors of a particular group. Some associations need to make enemy groups so their hero groups have a cause to fight.

People need to deeply consider the perspectives of others. There are those who want to jump in and force action when they have a particular passion themselves. When media and others make associations as if all of one race is rightfully enraged or all of a police force or military are brutal, they do an injustice to the majority that have good character and just want to keep peace. Our opinions on how to get there may vary but the people involved aren’t always of the same opinion either. I can bet that they are all rational people as we are and should all take time to understand each other. From there they can sort out bad behavior and punish those who do it while showcasing those who do good things that help. But it seems normal nowadays to approach things from a group perspective and that approach is unjust;  but maybe it pays better to report that way.

Doesn’t really matter

Complaining’s not our forte

Everyone sees that look in her eyes

Sight

I search in every look

What you are looking at

Characters impose on our minds

When we have our own children involved in our business, we want to see them get and maintain their own client list. We want them to get their own home and raise their children even better than we raised them. As a parent, it is a joy to see them reach their fullest potential. As a country, we want to see its citizens do the same.

This is the tragedy of having a welfare state. We see the results of socialism around us. Deadbeat parents who are satisfied with living off the state and leaving the job of raising their children to the state and the grandparents. They lose out on the joys of helping  another human being reach their fullest potential. They raise children that are quick to blame others for their circumstances rather than becoming strong through overcoming obstacles.

It is similar to putting the child back in the stroller because he trips and falls. He may have had the potential to be an athlete but learns instead to depend on another for comfort rather than encouragement. In a welfare state, expecting others to pull up their boot straps and get going is considered mean spirited. Sure we should show empathy to others but with the expectation they will work through things themselves to overcome. There is nothing better as a boss to see an employee to take advice, work through adversity and become proficient at his job. The ones that sit back and complain or need to be coddled all the time are a disappointment.

The greatest gift we can give someone is to teach them to become hard working and optimistic. It is called self-actualization. The ability to see the God given talents in each one of us used to its fullest potential. To participate in this is a privilege.