In order for reason to exist in a rational mind, a person has to use judgement. The goal is to use good judgement. In order for individual people to exist, they must have unique characteristics. Having unique characteristics will result in people having their own preferences toward certain ones. If a person calls something beautiful it could be perceived to be offensive to the remaining things that weren’t called beautiful. Any preference can be perceived as offensive to those who don’t share it.

A person always has a choice on how to react to the judgements of others. It is normal and healthy part of reasoning to classify people and things as dangerous or useful through past experiences. These conclusions are changed by observing the same people or things behave in a different manner than what was experienced previously. Understanding this principle is key to having the proper reaction to the false judgements of others. Forgiveness is a common word used for the action of overlooking past perceived offenses, but there is a better way. It is the way that doesn’t take offense in the first place. One who maintains good character despite the characterizations of others is one who uses grace.  

Some are in the habit of taking offense at every slight. This allows them to always put others in the position of owing them some kind of debt. Bitterness is a way to keep oneself off the hook from personal responsibility. A bitter person has their sense of justice skewed. When people perceive they are at war, things that had been normal relational issues become terrible offenses in order to give the appearance of an injustice that needs to be righted. But vengeful behavior due to perceived injustices blinds a person to any real solution.

To actually be free from the prejudices and opinions of others one has to use grace. It isn’t the one that curses everyone and his circumstances that comes out of poverty and disadvantage with a clear conscience. It isn’ through killing scapegoats that one gets ahead. The one who moves ahead with good character despite opposition is the clear winner. There is little drama for those who use grace so their voice isn’t very loud. But if you think hard, there will always be those who gave you a break when you didn’t deserve it. Grace is the only solution for prejudice. Since preference and prejudice will alway exist, a graceful soul, one that doesn’t take offense, is the only soul that is free.