Every parent enjoys seeing their child grow up. An infants sounds become conversations; they start walking and talking. It is endearing to see them learn to self-initiate rather than needing to be carried everywhere. Soon we tell them to quit acting like a helpless baby and walk themselves. Every stage of growth is celebrated and is marked by independence. As they grow up, it is our duty to equip them with as much independence and self- motivation as possible. It is a shame on a parent to have children who cannot function without them. At least that is the way it is supposed to be.

It seems our society is trying to make dependence a virtue. A real adult can’t wait to get out into the world make their way. Not because of a bad home-life but to make use of their energetic mind and body. We should make our own opportunities and it is a shame to put up with people who draw a shade over our human potential. There are various means that are used, but they all make us subjects to the whims of another.

The bar has been lowered at what constitutes being a victim. Slavery, murder or starvation used to be the criteria for it. To call oneself a victim in the abundance that is America is childish in the same way we don’t approve of a kid hanging on to his mommy because the world is scary. An adult is expected to go out, overcome obstacles and become something on his own. It isn’t a virtue to demand someone to take care of you; it is virtuous to work through hardships without complaining while bettering oneself in the process.

When the group we associate with tells us there is no opportunity, it is up to us to debunk the myth. It is a good idea to get away from peers that hold us back and listen to those who spark independence in us. It doesn’t require money or certain circumstances, it takes the courage that goes with independence to go out and make a change in our lives. The pay always comes later. We need to lay aside issues of race, economies and bad luck and put the God-given talent that is in each of us to work. To be courteous when inconvenienced, to embrace changes, to handle adversity with poise; are what it means to be mature.
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